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OkCupid Profile Examples For Men (Tips & Templates) Will Titterington. August 22, 2020. September 25, 2019. OkCupid is one of the most popular dating websites around. It’s also got a good success rate – each week I seem to be reading stories of men and women all over the world who have found love on there. (Read our expert's OkCupid Review). What usually works best for me is to ask a question based on the interests and hobbies a person mentions on their profile. For example, if I see they are into the same video games as I am, I ask them about their favourite scenes from said videogam.
If you struggle with online dating or have ever wondered how to use OkCupid or other dating apps/sites to your best advantage, new research from OkCupid gives women a massive insight. And it's all about the messaging.
For some reason, women are still really hesitant to send the first message on online dating. It's a probably just a big old sexist hangup that won't seem to die. Despite only 17 percent of women still thinking the men should pay on a first date (a tradition I wish would just disappear), we're less progressive when it comes to online correspondence.
In fact, according to the latest report from OkCupid's The Deep End, men send 3.5 times more first messages than women. That's of those who identify as straight. With the gay and lesbian community it's way more even (obviously, it has to be) and even among those who identify as bisexual. But straight ladies are still just waiting to be approached online.
Maybe that doesn't seem like a big deal. I mean, if men are sending all those messages then straight women are getting approached anyway, right? Well, sort of. But it turns out women who message first are not only more likely to get replies, they're more likely to get hotter dudes — seriously.
I know that seems like a bit of a leap, but it's true — science says so. SCIENCE. Take a look at the stats and see for yourself:
1. No Matter How Many Messages They Receive, Or How Hot They Are, Women Still Don't Message
Interestingly, OkCupid wanted to see if women who didn't receive many messages were more likely to message— nope. They also looked at their attractiveness rating (yup, the profiles are rated) to see if that affected it— nope again. According to the report: 'Women rarely reach out, no matter their circumstances.' Weird.
2. People Message Above Their Hotness Level
Really. Like a lot. They analyzed the type of people that users send messages to and found that 'men are reaching out to women 17 percentile points more attractive, and women contact men who are 10 percentile points more attractive.'
So what does that mean? If you're waiting around to be messaged, you're going to be messaged by people who are less attractive than you are, and way less attractive than the people you would be messaging.
3. And Messages Women Send End Up In First Dates WAY More Frequently
But here's the great news: if you do send messages to those uber-attractive people, you're way more likely to end up on a date with them than with some random dude that messages you. When women send the first message they end up with dates 30 percent of the time, compared to 12 percent of the time when guys message first (again, talking about straight people here). Plus, you don't have to wade through some of the weird, weird messages you get on OKCupid looking for the good ones — you make the good ones.
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So basically, you've got nothing to lose. If you choose to send a message you're more likely to end up with a date and it'll be with a more attractive prospect. Why wait? As the report says:
If you’re a woman on OkCupid, you’re at an incredible advantage. You should message men you find attractive — not just because they’re easy on the eye, but because you’re more likely to have something to talk about. You’ll increase your quantity of quality. As for men, it’s worth noting that they’ll probably enjoy getting more messages.
The odds are in your favor. What’s the worst that could happen? You message a cute guy and don’t get an answer. What’s the best? That’s between you and your date.
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Is there a way to see who likes you on OkCupid without paying?
Ironically, free users of OkCupid don’t see who likes them – just that they’ve received likes. Ironically, free users of OkCupid don’t see who likes them – just that they’ve received likes.
What does it mean when a conversation disappears on OkCupid?
From an OKCupid moderator: “When someone deletes or disables their account, or blocks or hides your profile, or is removed from the site, then your conversation with them will disappear from your inbox and their profile will no longer show up on the site.”
Can you tell if someone blocked you on OkCupid?
If they block you nothing looks different. If they hide you their profile remains intact but they stop appearing in your browse matches results. They deleted or disabled. If they block you nothing looks different.
Can they see my message on OkCupid?
Most like like, they haven’t seen your messages. You’re better off swiping in Doubletake, and message your Mutual Likes. The faster way to do this would be to do a search, and Like the ones you would like to date, and message your mutual likes.
How can you tell if someone unmatched you on OkCupid?
You can view your blocked/unmatched users on the app by tapping on your profile, then on Account Settings. From there, tap on Privacy, then on Blocked & Unmatched. Note: Passing someone does not block them.
What happens when you send an intro on OkCupid?
Once you send an introductory message to someone, we won’t show them to you again on OkCupid until they like you back. If they like you, they’ll let you know by liking you back or replying to your message.
Why can’t I see my OkCupid messages?
When you get notified that you received a message, if it’s not under conversations, it means you have to go to the “double take” tab and browse until you see a little blue icon under someone’s pictures, just so you can read the message. If you want to answer, you need to like them back.
What happens when you send someone a message on OkCupid?
Once you send an introductory message to someone, we won’t show them to you again on OkCupid until they like you back. Now the ball is in their court! If they like you, they’ll let you know by liking you back or replying to your message.
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Does OkCupid show your phone number?
Adding your phone number is now a requirement on OkCupid. You’ll need it to create a new account, or (if you already have an account) to send messages or intros. Confirming your phone number helps keep your account safe and secure, and makes it easier for you to log in to OkCupid.
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Should I use my real name on OkCupid?
We love our members. You do not need to use your government name or even your full first name. Use the name, nickname, or initials you’d like your date to call you on OkCupid. So you have to use something different, but that “different” doesn’t have to really be your name.
Is OkCupid dangerous?
But is it safe? Unfortunately, right now, the answer is no. OKCupid doesn’t use HTTPS encryption to protect their users’ safety on the vast majority of pages on their site.
Does OkCupid send fake likes?
They are probably bots. Hazel is paid by okcupid to give out fake likes. No. Other sites do it, and okcupid keeps inching closer to a hookup site, if it isn’t one already.
How good is OkCupid dating site?
In short, OkCupid is a more affordable eharmony. Our Editors’ Choice dating app, Match, also has robust profiles, along with a fun, easy-to-use interface, but OkCupid is a worthy competitor. For those looking for a date for tonight rather than something more long-term, check out our other Editors’ Choice, Tinder.
Can you see messages on OkCupid without paying?
We always let you see your mutual Likes for free. You can see your recent mutual Likes in the New Matches tab of your messaging page. Messaging on OkCupid is completely free.
Does OkCupid tell if you screenshot?
Unfortunately, screenshot notifications aren’t a thing with OkCupid. This means that you’ll have no idea whether or not someone has taken a screenshot of your conversation.
What does the green dot mean on OkCupid 2020?
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If you see a green dot on a profile (or a green circle around an image) that indicates the person is currently online and using OkCupid. Finally, a gold circle around a photo shows that someone has liked you.
Can you see who you liked on OkCupid?
Tapping the blue star brings up the “Likes” section of OkCupid. From there, you can see which profiles you’ve already liked. And if you’re an A-List member, you can see all the profiles of users who have “liked” you already.
How do you find someone you accidentally swiped left on OkCupid?
If you left swipe and you haven’t swiped the next person there’s an undo button in the top right. Edit: your only other option is to hope to stumble upon them in your matches. If you remember the age, just set your filter for that age and start looking.
How do you introduce yourself on OkCupid?
How to write a great introduction
- Keep it to 40-90 Characters. You don’t have to pour your heart out in message #1.
- Be Thoughtful. Just like you would with a potential date in real life, express genuine interest.
- Don’t Be Too Familiar.
- Mind Your Grammar.
- In Summary: Date Like You Do In Real Life.